How to Ask for Help
By Sam Berns
Whether it’s studying for a test, filling out a student loan application or asking for directions, odds are you will have to ask for help at some point. To get the most out of it, try the following tips.
Try it on your own first
You’d be surprised at just how much you can do on your own but you’ll only find out if you try first. If you try and realize that you can’t do it on your own, at least now you know why and in what specific areas you need help in.
It’s the difference between saying “I’m failing calculus! Help!” and saying “I’m ok with derivatives but I don’t understand integrals. Can you help me understand integrals?” It’s easier to help people who know exactly where they need help and the only way to know is to try it on your own first.
When you ask for help, try to ask sooner rather than later if you can help it. It just makes it easier on you and the person who is helping you.
If you want people to really help you, you need to be polite and show respect. No one has to help you, they might have to serve you but they won’t go that extra mile if you are rude.
Say thank you
The best way to say thank you is to use the help that you get and succeed at whatever you where trying to achieve. Thank the person who helped you and tell them about your success.
One last thing
Whatever you are going through, just know that there are people out there who can help. And if they can’t help, they can help you find the people who can help. There are parents, teachers, guidance counselors, teen help lines, librarians and many other resources dedicated to helping others.